Can You Choose to Love What You Hate?
In the presence of love, hatred for your enemy is transformed
Have you ever noticed what you feel when someone says, "I hate (fill in the blank)?" Hatred can seem benign, but not always.
For example, someone says, "I hate cilantro. It tastes like soap in my mouth." On the other hand, hatred does not seem so innocuous when a person says, "I hate Native Americans. They are stupid." This form of hatred feels different, doesn't it?
Generally, hate is defined as an intense feeling or passionate aversion for someone or something. Emotionally, the desire to inflict harm or to hurt another (revenge) is often a feeling that is on the doorstep of hatred. This is important to acknowledge.
Martin Luther King, Jr. said, "He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies."
Can you simply not like "it?" Liking and loving are not synonymous. What is the real reason you might hate another person? Are you courageous enough to look into your heart and see that? To have your heart open requires faith and trust. Having faith and trust is the opposite of fear. Fear is a state of mind, and ultimately, thinking from fear causes you to act from fear. Fear is insidious, it causes you to hate; it keeps the light from the spirit. Hate makes destroying right in the mind. Hate is not rational, and it has a greater impact on the individual who hates, than the hated. Yet, overcoming hatred is arduous because hatred reinforces itself and causes formidable enmity to come into being.
Love is the only force one can use to transform hatred.
Deciding to love what you hate, whether this is a person, a situation, a part of yourself, or God, can create profound changes in your feelings and your life. When you are busy loving, there is no room for bitterness, resentment, rage, revenge--or violence.
The practice of loving what you hate can transform and shift your emotions from hatred to love. In fact, hatred can't exist in a space occupied by love. Admittedly, it is difficult to forgo judging someone, but you can choose to love
them, and seek the wisdom in situations that cause you suffering. In deciding to love what you hate, you are one less person propagating negativity on Earth.
Simply put, loving what you hate aids you in enjoying your life more completely. On a more complex level, loving what you hate, gives you freedom because you disengage yourself from the hatred that blocks you from living from your divine nature/soul.
Responding with love to people emanating hatred, transmutes their negative energy. You empower yourself by shielding yourself from their negativity. Rather than lowering yourself to the level of hatred, you give other's a chance to rise above their feelings of hatred and join you in the field of love. As Martin Luther King, Jr. said, "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."